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Okay, I'll give you a plug. I wish you luck with your project.
Have a good day now.
== Orange
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* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** As I see it, every day you do one of two things:
** build health or produce disease in yourself.
** == Adelle Davis
Date: Wed, January 26, 2011
From: "joey s."
Subject: I just wanted to thank you for the plug!
I really do appreciate it and I know that it's working because seven
people have stopped to check out the site through your link. so please
except my most humble thank you's and I'll promise to keep spreading
the word of hope for those of us that want to be clean without the
brainwashing!
Sincerely ....Joey
You are welcome.
Have a good day now.
== Orange
* orange@orange-papers.org *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** "Now I know what it's like to be high on life.
** It isn't as good, but my driving has improved."
** == Nina, on "Just Shoot Me", 13 Jan 2006.
Date: Sat, January 22, 2011 3:31 am (answered 24 January 2011)
From: "greg m."
Subject: getting to know you!
What is your sobriety date?
What tools do you have to stay sober?
What was the last straw (or first straw) to break — that convinced you to destroy
the fellowship of alcoholics anonymous?
What do you suggest as a program of recovery?
Hello Greg,
My sobriety date is October 20, 2000. And then my
"sobriety date" off of tobacco was three weeks later,
the following November 13th.
I don't use "tools", per se, to stay sober.
I have a few techniques that I use to avoid thinking
that drinking would be a good thing, like understanding
The Lizard-Brain Addiction Monster.
And the sanity techniques taught by SMART can help you to avoid driving yourself crazy.
But I basically don't "use tools". I just don't drink alcohol any more
because I don't want the quality of my life to go to hell. I chose to not die that way.
The "last straws" were described here:
- the introduction, my introduction to A.A.
- the "treatment" bait-and-switch trick
- another friend goes missing
There are many things that can help you to quit drinking.
I described many of them in this letter, and gave links to many more things and discussions:
How did you get to where you are?.
Have a good day and a good life now.
== Orange
* orange@orange-papers.org *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** Pain (any pain — emotional, physical, mental) has a message.
** The information it has about our life can be remarkably specific,
** but it usually falls into one of two categories: "We would be
** more alive if we did more of this," and, "Life would be more
** lovely if we did less of that." Once we get the pain's message,
** and follow its advice, the pain goes away.
** Peter McWilliams, Life 101
Date: Sat, January 22, 2011 10:40 am (answered 24 January 2011)
From: Ben
Subject: Thanks for telling the TRUTH about AA
Dear Sir or Madame,
I just read the first ten points you make about the CULT of Alcoholics Anonymous in
your Internet article. I am so glad that there are other people who see AA as the
cult and fraud that it is. I am a divorced 43 year old male who grew up in a
non-spiritual Jewish household. I have returned to my hometown in South Jersey after
returning last June due to a lost job in Colorado. I went into Princeton House in
Cherry Hill for intensive outpatient recovery. Obviously, as you stated, it
functions as a mouthpiece for AA. Depleted emotionally from a loss of a job and
abuse of alcohol, I went throught the program with 'an open mind'. AA was
proselytized in the program and at first, a lot of it made sense. I had several
so-called relapses, when I had one or two drinks while on blind dates. After finding no
work over the summer as a teacher, I was desperate and directionless in what career
direction I wanted to go in, so I tried car sales. Well, within in 3 1/2 months I
quit two dealerships because I was making no money. The day after I quit the second
job, I binged on large bottle of wine at home. I decided to go back into AA meetings
wholeheartedly since I was now unemployed with lots of free time. This was in early
last December.
For whatever reason, I began to have an epiphany about what a true cult AA is. All
of the Big Book lingo, 'keep coming back', 'asking God to remove all of our defects'
etc etc. But, especially the condescension and arrogance of the writings of Bill W.
and alot of the AA cult members, especially the 'old timers.' I began speaking up
several weeks ago at meetings and challenging the 'cultish' nature of AA which I
bravely stated in those terms. I really started getting angry at all of the
hypocrisy and ego inflation of the white upper middle class, fur-wearing soccer mom
housewives, as well as the 20 something kids who used this as a social hour. The
clickishness and phony kisses on the cheeks before and after the meetings really
pissed me off. Everybody is on self-delusional, self-promoting ride in a cult that
so blatantly brainwashes you to conform to an illogical set of rules. Sponsors
standing up, stroking the ego of some housewife just because she stayed sober for 90
days, 5 years or whatever. Let's all clap like trained seals for someones
successfully taking a shit while we're at it! I find these meetings for ego-maniacs,
social misfits, morally depraved and unfortunately, some regular people who just
want to stop drinking but can't see through the smoke and mirrors of social
indoctrination.
I now feel that I have made the right decision by staying away from AA and using the
philosophy of the great songwriter, Neil Peart of Rush: "I will choose the path
that's clear. I will choose freewill..."
Best Regards,
Ben
Hello Ben,
Thanks for the letter, and thanks for the thanks. And yes, I like that Rush song too.
Another great line is,
"Even if you decide not to choose,
you still have made a choice."
Have a good day and a good life now.
== Orange
* orange@orange-papers.org *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** Keeping your body healthy is an expression of gratitude to
** the whole cosmos — the trees, the clouds, everything.
** == Thich Nhat Hanh
Date: Sat, January 22, 2011 11:20 am (answered 24 January 2011)
From: "Facebook"
Subject: Donald L. commented on your status.
Hi Orange,
Donald wrote:
"On line AA, far worse than the f2f meetings, since the worst of the moralist
Thumpers and Gurus, loons and kool aid drinkers are able to hide behind a puter
screen, many proudly state they only attend 'online' meetings and chat rooms.
Generally, I and others, maybe 'old fashioned' now, had a code, would not do
business with anyone till we met them in person, looked him or her in the eyes,
shook their hand and read their body language. I have a handful of normie old time
online actual friends/associates, trust takes time, when a newcomer, maybe group
shy, arrives at a 12 stepper forum or chat room, they are not there to find a cheap
flight, they are there because they are suffering from alcohol or other addiction,
what do they get, dozens ready to 'help' them and then when the honeymoon is over
the brainwashing and 'program' begins, relapse ok, makes the members with 'time in'
feel superior as the relapser crawls back asking 'what did I do wrong' (probably
nothing, if you locked me into a 24/7 12 Step live chat room, I'd probably escape
and head for the nearest bar). There is a lot of censoring and monotoring then
rebuking of those who go 'off topic' and speak their minds, I know I was kicked off
or asked to leave a total of four 12 Step on line groups, others I just left, tout
suite, one was just a 'looney bin' chat room, got a problem and live in a large us
metro area, dozens of help hotlines!!! I also refused to say I was in 'Program'
rather as AA's preamble states, ""A Felowship of Men and Women", and if one has a
sense of humor and is not 'pc' in their language, one will soon be severly
reprimanded.. shades of Buchman and Puritanism, 6 years ago, some us refugees from on
line and f2f AA started a small group, still small still going, still non
judgemental, Lamplighters on line 12 Step Group thousands of members, dozens of chat
rooms is one of the most vile if you break their rules..would love to see in person
some of these social outcast contrl freaks come out from behind their puter
screens.. Losers Anonymous?????"
Hi again, Donald,
Yes, isn't it funny how "a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty" gets translated into
censoring and banning anybody who says things that they don't wish to hear?
Oh well, have a good day anyway.
== Orange
* orange@orange-papers.org *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** "They are not at fault. They seem to have been born that way.
** They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a
** manner of living which demands rigorous honesty."
** == William G. Wilson, Alcoholics Anonymous, page 58.
Date: Sat, January 22, 2011 1:05 pm (answered 24 January 2011)
From: "Facebook"
Subject: Alan P. F. commented on your status.
Alan wrote:
"I went into a stepper chat a bunch of years ago on AOL: what a laughing stock that
turned out to be. The topic was "brainwashing," and almost everybody stated
something to the effect that "my brain needed to be washed!" I don't know what they
know (or, more accurately, don't know) about what is actually "thought reform," but
the Chinese certainly perfected the art during the Korean War. People, especially
people who espouse their stupidity loudly and proudly, need to read up on this shit
(a psychologist named Festinger is a good jumping off point) before they run their
ignorant fucking mouths... if these dolts want to be brainwashed, then
god-fucking-bless them.
I had a counselor when I was forced into AA who used to proclaim, "I never met
anybody who was too stupid to "get" AA, but I've met a lot of people who were too
smart!" Academics and thinkers have academia and reality on their side... I guess AA
gives stupid people some sort of moral high-ground to claim; Let 'em have it!"
Hi. "The stupid high ground." Now that's funny. Have a good day.
== Orange
P.S. Nothing is new under the sun. Today the rap is, "I'm stupider than you are, so I'm more
real and more spiritual. I'm not one of those effete intellectuals who think too much."
Well, back in the 1930s, the British fascist rap was:
Dinah Parkinson outlined her ideal of womanhood by arguing that under Fascism 'women
will be encouraged to be true women, not the pitiful copies of masculinity so
prevalent today. Men will be truly men, unlike the specimens to be found in
spurious "intellectual" circles'. ...
In particular, left-wing inclined intellectuals had opprobium poured upon them for their
alleged effeminacy. Oxford University was held to be populated by 'innumerable
specimens of the Bloomsbury variety, from the long haired apparition with the
multicoloured umbrella to the less common tinted lips and eyebrows'.
Return to Manhood: Masculinity and the British Union of Fascists, Tony Collins, writing in
Superman Supreme, J. A. Mangan, Ed., page 148.
Yes, real men don't think. They just stomp around like brutal thugs with Swastika armbands.
By the way, Dinah Parkinson was one of
Sir Oswald Mosley's followers.
Sir Oswald Mosley was the leader of The British Union of Fascists in the 1930s.
Another of Mosley's followers was
Peter Howard, who took over
leadership of Frank Buchman's organization, then named
"Moral Re-Armament", when Buchman died.
Dr. Frank Buchman was of course the theological father of Alcoholics Anonymous, and he
taught Bill Wilson, Dr. Robert Smith, and Clarence Snyder all of their crazy religious ideas
while they were members of his Oxford Group.
Then, to complete the circle,
Frank Buchman sat
with Unity Mitford and Lady Diana Mosley at a Nuremberg Nazi Party rally.
Unity Mitford was another of Sir Oswald Mosley's followers, and Diana was his wife.
What a small fascist world it is after all.
Bill Wilson parrotted the fascist anti-intellectual teachings and put-downs of thinkers like this:
To the intellectually self-sufficient man or woman many A.A.'s can say,
"Yes, we were like you — far too smart for our own good.
... Secretly, we felt we could float above the rest of the folks
on brain power alone."
As Bill Sees It,
quotes from William G. Wilson, published by A.A.W.S., page 60.
Right. You are too stupid to think for yourself.
But let some Führer or other do your thinking for you, and everything will be fine.
Have a good day.
== Orange
P.P.S.:
I just had this crazy thought: Do you suppose the earthworms, who have no brains at all,
are really, really spiritual?
Do they get the program?
* orange@orange-papers.org *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** Stupid people like to delude themselves that while they may not be clever,
** they were at least able to compensate with feelings and insight denied
** to the intellectual. Drivel, Ashley thought. It was precisely this
** kind of false belief that made stupid people so stupid. The truth was
** that clever people had infinitely more resources from which to make the
** leaps of connection that the world called intuition.
** == The Stars' Tennis Balls by Stephen Fry
Date: Sat, January 22, 2011 2:00 pm (answered 25 January 2011)
From: "ED S."
Subject: Question
Do you know anything about the AA Groups that have We Agnostics as part of
their name?
Have a great day!
"Beliefs are what divide people. Doubt unites them."
---Peter Ustinov
(1921-2004)
Ed S.
Columbus, OH
Hi Ed,
No, I don't know. I had not heard of that one. Perhaps some of the readers know something about that?
Have a good day.
== Orange
* orange@orange-papers.org *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** It is by the goodness of God that in our country we have those
** three unspeakably precious things: freedom of speech, freedom of
** conscience, and the prudence never to practise either of them.
** == Mark Twain (Samuel Longhorne Clemens) 1835—1910
Date: Mon, January 24, 2011 4:39 am (answered 26 January 2011)
From: "alanah"
Subject: Atandra message
Hi,
I just wanted to write quick note, I found your site extremely helpful, I
was in AA, for four years, from aged 21 — 25, I am now 45 year old woman, I
went there because it was indoctrinated into me at an alcohol and drug
treatment centre I was in for 3 months after a drug overdose, after leaving
AA, and being treated very meanly by fellow aa members because I left, I
lived in small town NZ [New Zealand],
I actually spent about 10 years cult hopping, and
was in a couple of very destructive ones, I remained drug and alcohol free
for 8 years because I had had absolute terror put into me from the rehab and
AA, also I realised many years later that the treatment center used very
abusive psychological techniques on us, such as humiliating us, verbally,
running us down, forcing us to share, abusive psychodrama, and generally
running down our self esteems, and brainwashing us with 12 steps, I had run
away from an extremely violent father at aged 16, I now realised I continued
the abuse within all these groups and was susceptible because I was looking
for a family to belong to, and lose myself in.
I left my last cult about 5 years ago, and only just left a few months ago a
spiritual teacher I had for 20 years, which I kept separate from the cults,
that was not a guru with a following, I would see him privately and go to
his house, he did not sexually abuse me, but for the last year, I started
studying up about hypnotism, manipulation tactics and cults, and then I
realised, which was very painful to face in myself that this spiritual
teacher that I had been seeing had been manipulating, brainwashing, and
doing exactly the same techniques as the cults had done on me, but on a
personal one to one basis, I had let him make all my important life
decisions for me for 20 years, as I trusted him and his advice totally, but
he had kept me dependent, and that I haven't actually really lived my own
life for myself, It has been a shock, but I am happy that I have woken up to
it, I read on another site about what happens when you leave cults, which I
have now, especially not being able to make decisions for yourself, and not
trusting my own feelings, and thought processes, and the stuff you wrote
about how they make you feel guilty, self doubt ect really helped me a lot
thanks. I see now that the spiritual teacher I had was a narcissistic
egomaniac, because he could not see himself as doing anything wrong, had
double standards and it was his way or the highway.
Anyway, I just wanted to let you know your info has helped me a lot,
especially to think back to my aa days, and to see how the similar themes
running through the various groups I was in, the thing that amazes me about
it, is that when you are in them, or when I was, you are totally unconscious
of it at the time, for me I think, I was susceptible because of wanting to
belong, love, family etc, a safe place, and I also think that if you have
post traumatic disorder which I had from extreme violence, you are on
permanent, hyper stress, that your brain doesn't work as well to think
rationally and question things properly,
That's all, Thanks again, Atandra.
Hi again, Atandra,
Thanks for the letter and the compliments.
I'm glad to hear that you are free now. It reminds me of that line in a Beatles song:
"Oh, that magic feeling, Nowhere to go, nowhere to go..."
And you are right about the lingering effects of PTSD. Child abuse leaves scars that never really heal.
We just learn to gloss them over and live with them.
Have a good day now.
== Orange
* orange@orange-papers.org *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** Someday, maybe there will exist a well-informed, well-considered,
** and yet fervent public conviction that the most deadly of all
** possible sins is the mutilation of a child's spirit.
** == Erik Erikson
Date: Mon, January 24, 2011 5:13 am (answered 26 January 2011)
From: "Andy C."
Subject: 'A sucker born every minute'
Hi Orange,
I hope you are well and that you enjoyed the holidays. I like reading the
Orange Papers, and I have found inspiration and hope in the reports from people
finding their own way in life. They are overcoming addictions and other serious
obstacles by inner reserves of strength, courage, self-honesty and intelligence.
Some of them are also fulfilling the original (alleged) mission or mandate of
Stepism "to carry this message to help others to achieve sobriety."----so they are
working to make the world a better place, and they are preventing some amount of
human suffering. Surely on these points they are on the same page as the world's
great religions.
However, I have to be honest, the Orange Papers also indirectly spun me
recently into a "dark night of the soul." I knew very little about the other
cults you from time to time touch on, so I started surfing to learn more. I
read about Xenu the volcano boy and the suckers who pay $$$ to go into a room
to hear the secret details; I read about the thousands in Jonestown who drank
the Kool-Aid; I read about the "flirty fishing" con man who convinced married
women they had to be prostitutes to achieve salvation; I read about Yacoob and
the mother ship; I read about the castrato Applewhite and those who went with
him to catch a comet. After all this and more I asked myself, "Is there any
hope for humanity?" Will we always embrace the irrational and the absurd?
Anyway, I got through it.
Keep up the good work; keep the faith (so to speak) for the struggle against
cultism is an immense project. I realize that now.
Hi Andy,
Thanks for the letter. I still think there is hope for humanity, even if the current
"Western Civilization" is toast. (Which it may well be, as the oil runs out.
I don't know what the future will bring, but I know it is not happy motoring to suburbia.)
Yes, its a huge job, trying to straighten out all of the fools, and the cult leaders
seem to have an unfair advantage.
I am reminded of something that I think Buddha made up, the "Boddhisatva's Vow". I don't have
the direct quote in front of me, so I can only paraphrase it:
The suffering of humanity is without limit.
I vow to end it all.
The number of sentient beings is without limit.
I vow to enlighten them all.
Obviously, Mr. Boddhisatva has a big job on his hands, and it's going to take a long, long time.
Ah, but it gives us something to do, and keeps us off of the streets.
Have a good day now.
== Orange
* orange@orange-papers.org *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** "Whenever I despair, I remember that the way of truth
** and love has always won. There may be tyrants and murderers,
** and for a time, they may seem invincible, but in the end, they
** always fail. Think of it: always."
** == Mahatma Gandhi
Date: Mon, January 24, 2011 8:51 am (answered 26 January 2011)
From: "Id Powers"
Subject: [Recovery 2 Day] Recently Bill asked for information about...
Id Powers posted in Recovery 2 Day.
Recently Bill asked for information about "craving." In the Docs is
R2D's reply. The reply is based in Yale School of Medicines findings,
and John Hopkins research. Recovery 2-Day (R2D) offers Craving
Interrupters, Stroop Charts and EMDR will reduce or Interrupt Stress.
Craving and Stress are related. Read what The Department of
Psychiatry, The Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, USA has
to say about it.
Stress, alcohol and drug interaction: an update of human research
http://www.facebook.com/l/0c25bqpiMiNFDXqJDPEXiMcj8JQ;
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2654253/?tool=pmcentrez
National Center for Biotechnology Information,
U.S. National Library of Medicine
8600 Rockville Pike, Bethesda MD,
20894 USA
Okay Id,
Thanks for the tip.
Have a good day now.
== Orange
* orange@orange-papers.org *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** The thirst of desire is never filled, nor fully satisfied.
** == Markus Tullius Cicero (106—43 B.C.), Roman orator
Date: Mon, January 24, 2011 9:04 am (answered 26 January 2011)
From: Bob O.
Subject: character defects
Mister T,
I read something I would like to pass on to you.
"It's medieval to think character defects cause alcoholism"
and
"AA is a society of slippers"
Thank you for all you do.
Long Island Bob O.
Hi again, Bob,
Thanks for the input. Those are good.
Character defects? It isn't a character defect to want to feel good, and to use something
to try to feel better. In fact, people are crazy if they don't want to feel good.
The problem is that so many things that start off feeling good become traps that
end up making us feel worse.
And a society of slippers? Sad but true.
Have a good day now.
== Orange
* orange@orange-papers.org *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** "Early AA got it's ideas of self-examination,
** acknowledgement of character defects, restitution for
** harm done, and working with others straight from the
** Oxford Groups and directly from Sam Shoemaker, their
** former leader in America, and nowhere else."
** == Bill Wilson,
** Alcoholics Anonymous Comes Of Age, page 39.
Date: Mon, January 24, 2011 10:44 am (answered 26 January 2011)
From: "Connie P."
Subject: A question
Wow, Just spent a few minutes glancing at the paper:
Alcoholics Anonymous as a Cult
Scorecard, Answers 1 to 10
by A. Orange
Fascinating---who is A. Orange?
Hello Connie,
Thanks for the compliment. Links to all of the autobiographical information are
here.
Have a good day now.
== Orange
* orange@orange-papers.org *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** It is not only by paying wages, and giving commands, that
** constitute a master of a family; but prudence, equal
** behavior, with a readiness to protect and cherish them,
** is what entitles man to that character in their very
** hearts and sentiments.
** == Sir Richard Steele (1672—1729), English essayist
Date: Sat, December 18, 2010 6:22 pm (answered 27 January 2011)
From: "Bill B."
Subject: Latest Updates?
Have enjoyed your site — answered many questions for me, and more
importantly, raised many more important ones. Thanks
Is this still being updated?
Discovered site a few years ago, read most of what interested me then (over
period of weeks). I check back — think I have found more "new" things, but
can't tell when things have been updated.
Is there a way I can keep up on "new" posts if you are adding new info this
year? Thanks
Hello Bill,
Thanks for the question. Yes, the site is very much still being updated.
Any big changes are listed in
the "Updates" section
of the main menu page.
Most of the regular updates are in the letters section. I am constantly answering letters,
like this one.
And then I am always tweaking tiny things here and there, adding a line or fixing a misspelling
or something. Each web page has a date at the bottom,
where it tells when the page was last updated.
Have a good day now.
== Orange
* orange@orange-papers.org *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** "Suppose you were an idiot and suppose you were a member of
** Congress. But I repeat myself."
** == Mark Twain
Date: Tue, January 18, 2011 12:33 pm (answered 19 January 2011)
From: "gabrielle g."
Subject: Book Deadline questions!
Dear Orange,
My name is Gabrielle G., and I'm a writer at work on a book about women and
drinking in the U.S. It will be published by Simon & Schuster, most likely in 2012.
(I am behind schedule.)
As an Oregonian and former Portlander (I live in New Jersey now), I read your site
with great interest. I especially liked the story of the gosling on the North Park
Blocks.
Hello Gabrielle,
Thanks for the letter. Yes, I like
the story of Carmen
too. She was such a sweet young thing. She has grown up now. I saw her fly. And she flew away
with her family.
I found your site last spring, when I started going to AA meetings as part of my
research. I really don't have a vested interest in what people drink and how, but I
started wondering how, exactly, "it works if you work it." Turns out it is not so
simple.
I know you get a gazillion emails a day but I'd love to know a couple of things.
One, has anyone ever done a definitive study on the "success" of AA among women? I
know how difficult it is to pin them down and blah blah blah. I've spent time at the
GSO. I hear the 30% figure bandied about, and I hear the 5% figure bandied about. I
hear the 2% figure bandied about. I've reviewed the Cochrane meta-analysis from the
Italian researchers. I've spent a good deal of time with some CBT therapists in
California and New York who are unabashed in their critiques. There are always
caveats, and of course I'm not out to write a book about AA. I do hope to show that
its weaknesses, shall we say, are particularly unhelpful to women, and that there
are many other treatment options available. I just can't find any numbers that are
reliable, or rooted in any way in EBP.
I never heard of any such study of the A.A. success rate in women.
In general, A.A. avoids valid testing like the plague, because of the bad results.
And the A.A. headquarters has a bad habit of
playing fast and loose with the numbers.
Women seem to have a harder time of it in A.A. than the men do,
considering how many sexual predators find
a happy home in "the roomz".
Of course you know about "The Midtown Group" and its bretheren, right?
Two, how many hits do you get a month? I spoke to a woman in Southern California who
not long ago told me that you get about a million hits a month. I'd love to be able
to include this, if possible.
The number of hits cycles with the seasons. It peaks at over a million in March, and then
drops down to 700,000 or 800,000 per month during the summer when everybody is out playing in the sun.
(And I don't blame them.)
Then, when the winter forces everybody back inside, the numbers pick up again, and
the count slowly climbs throughout the winter, and then peaks again in March.
Last year, the web site got over a million hits in March, April, and May.
You can see the statistics
here.
Ignore the two-week gap in November 2010. The hosting service's technicians have a bad habit of
fixing things that aren't broken, and screwing things up, and this is one of those times.
The system just didn't collect statistics for "webalizer" for two weeks in November.
For what it's worth, I don't have a drinking problem. I'm a normal drinker. I like
to drink, but I have a pretty serious shut-off valve that usually kicks in after two
small glasses of wine. But I have been amazed, in the reporting for this book, at
the number of people who ask me if I'm "sure" I'm not an "alcoholic."
Thanks, Orange.
Gabrielle G.
Right. Are you Sure that you aren't a sinner? Maybe you are just in denial
about your true nature. If you deny being an alcoholic, that is evidence that you
really are an alcoholic who is in denial. (Just kidding.)
It's like the Witch Test. If you confess to being a witch, then you are one.
If you deny being a witch, then that just proves that you are an evil lying witch who denies being a witch.
Yes, they can be very obnoxious in trying to insist that you aren't any better than them, and
that they know more than you do about your faults.
But conversely, I am forever getting letters where
they tell me that I'm not really an alcoholic
at all, because I quit drinking without doing the 12 Steps.
So the best way to not be an alcoholic
is to say that you are one, and that you quit drinking and stay sober without using A.A. practices, or
going to meetings, or anything like that.
They pop a cork over that and immediately declare that you are not A Real Alcoholic,
because a real alcoholic cannot quit without A.A.
It's the The Real Scotsman Fallacy
once again.
Oh well, have a good day anyway.
== Orange
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* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** Few things are harder to put up with than
** the annoyance of a good example.
** == Mark Twain (Samuel Longhorne Clemens) 1835—1910
Date: Mon, January 24, 2011 6:00 pm (answered 27 January 2011)
From: "gabrielle g."
Subject: Re: Book Deadline questions!
Dear Orange,
You amaze.
Thank you so much for your answers.
I do know about the Midtown Group — I knew Marc Fisher when I lived in DC a
hundred years ago and have been meaning to write to him about this very
issue. Very creepy.
Hi again, Gabrielle,
Who is Marc Fisher?
I think I am safe to say that during cold cold months, you average more than
a million hits.
Alas, I think that would be an exaggeration. The year before last, it was just one month, March,
when the counter hit a million. Last spring it was three months. We shall see what it is this year.
When I get the forum going, the count will probably go very high, because people do a lot more
forum posts than readings of long web pages.
Very sweet about Carmen;
thanks for telling me. I will look for her next time I am home.
She will be hard to recognize, as she looks like an adult now. I couldn't even recognize her if I saw
her alone. The thing to look for is a family with five geese that look like adults, but three are slightly
smaller. That's real tough because the mother is also a little smaller than the father.
So one big one and four smaller ones.
The thing that I recognize is the father's spikey pattern of white on
the side of his head, and the mother's rounded corners on her white patch.
Then Carmen will be the smallest one of the five, because she is a girl,
and her two brothers are larger than she is.
Then, if you take them some bread, the one that I called "the light-colored one" will probably
walk right up to you and take it out of your hand. He is the friendliest and most trusting
one of the bunch. But he isn't light-colored any more.
They will probably still be together, as families tend to stay together until the kids marry.
They take a spouse at 2 1/2 years of age, which will be this autumn for Carmen.
And they mate for life.
Then next spring, a year from now, Carmen will have her own children.
Interesting that you don't know of any stats on women in AA. A lot of people
will tell you they exist. Naturally, they are also on the boards of 12-step
rehab centers.
Yes. Finding real valid tests of A.A. is like finding hen's teeth.
All of the valid studies and tests of A.A. effectiveness that I know of
are in the file on
The Effectiveness of the Twelve-Step Treatment.
Thanks again, Orange.
Gabrielle G.
You are welcome.
Have a good day now.
== Orange
* orange@orange-papers.org *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** "What gets us into trouble is not what we don't know,
** it's what we know for sure that just ain't so."
** == Mark Twain
[The next letter from Gabrielle is here.]
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May 20, 2009, Wednesday: Day 20, continued:
Carmen's Family
Carmen is the front-left gosling. She has a smaller body than her brothers, and her coloration
is darker, and she has that dark spot on her cheek (actually, on her ear).
The father is in the back, on the left. The mother is in the middle.
I think that the gosling behind the mother is the one that I call "the light-colored one".
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