I was reading the California Fouth-Step document that Violetagain posted and it made everything seem so easy. If I just do everything right -- like not carry resentments and be cheerful and be grateful and do the right thing and be an ethical person, etc. -- then everything will fall into place and I'll be happy. It almost seemed like, wow, this is the secret to happiness. And then I remembered, duh. I already knew all of this, everyone does. It's obvious. It's the actually doing it that is so difficult. It's the same with staying sober. The key to staying sober is not using a substance.