This is sort of an intro for me since there is no intro forum. I am the sole member of my family who never became an alcoholic or drug addict. I currently have three family members active in AA. Just over the last few years I have seriously begun to question this program and how it has affected my family. I found orange papers a little over a year ago and was so relieved to see other, even people who were in the program, questioning the validity and effectiveness of AA. I am not going into the long drawn out version of my experiences with all of this. I have an aunt who has been in the program for over 35 years who has become one of the "guru's". You can imagine the exposure and indoctrination I have had.
At this point in my life, having spent years healing from all of the abuse and manipulation, after acknowledging my valid questions and problems with AA have decided to no longer permit AA nor alcoholism run my life through my family members. As a result, as I am sure you can expect, rejection was inevitable by my family members. I honestly feel as though I have lost my family and any chance of us all really healing to a cult.
I joined this forum to learn from those of you who have been alcoholics, have been in AA and yet found a way to recover despite AA through other means. I am not going to lie. I still have a TON of resentment for those about choosing to drink to escape and choosing AA and living the victim/disease "powerless" lie. But maybe you will give me some greater insight about you so that I can be more understanding? And maybe it will be good for me to be here amongst you to get the perspective of those of us on the outer circles of these experiences?
I am also hoping to connect with others who have been "left behind" (I'm thinking about those religious fictional books atm and having a little laugh too so I am not coming from a place of "poor me") so that maybe we can support one another and help our friends and family members find better ways for recovery.
To admin: would it be possible to have a seperate section for us "outsiders"? Also, how do those of you with a history of alcoholism and AA feel about having a "normie" around?