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Big Book Divinely Inspired?

I found this on a forum, a response to a question: Do you the Big Book was divinely inspired by a huger power? I'm going to be the reactionary here and say yes, BUT, the reason for that is that the 12 steps evolved directly from the six steps of the Oxford group, which are taken directly from the New Testament, which I believe IS divinely inspired. That's one of the reasons I think the 12 steps have so much power. They are in many ways merely a re-phrasing of ancient truths that have everything to do with the way we are wired as people.

Response to AA-Lover

Thought some of you might appreciate my response to this AA-lover: http://paulgarrigan.com/why-all-the-hatred-for-alcoholics-anonymous/comm... I'm sure she woudl appreciate more responses from you fine folk too ;)

AA = Borg

For those who know Star Trek, it was once pointed out to me in a meeting just how much AA resembles the race "The Borg". Pennywise has referenced this similarity too :) Here are some Wikipedia excerpts: see if you can spot the similarities (not the differences) ;) WARNING: The slogans at the bottom are a little too familiar... creepy!

How is early sobriety reconciled by AA members?

Many AA members, including Clara, have cited an early period of sobriety prior to coming to AA. It may have been weeks, or months. How do AA members explain the ability of alcholics to stay sober, not only in these early stages, but prior to doing the Steps, when they are supposedly powerless and without mental defence or will power? I never once herad this questioned in 6 years!

"It Works"? Or "It Helps"?

I have always found the statement "It Works" in relation to AA, or most other treatment programs, to be distasteful. It seems to imply a level fo efficacy that is misleading. For example, if i were to say "Morpheine works to provide pain relief", that would be a medical fact. It is proven to provide pain relief, and does so (i assume) in all cases where adminstration is biologically tolerated.

Spiritual Experience or Psychosis?

I knew a guy in AA who shared the following story at every meeting he went to (paraphrased): "I had previously been an atheist, but in AA I had come to find my own conception of God as i understood him. I developed a conscious contact with God, and he would speak to me, advising me of his will for me, such as needing to get some milk. But then one day, i was looking out the window, and God told me to jump. I considered it for a moment, then realised that God would not want me to kill myself. It was then that i realised the voice was not God after all."

AA Hilarity

AA-ers really do have their own unique idea of hilarity. In a previous post, msafrany referred to the phrase: "AA will screw up your drinking" Other "comedic gold" which i have observed to elicit a roar of laughter include: "I'm feeling a bit alkie today" "I thought i was different" "I just have a problem with drinking" "A doctor told me I have (insert mental health condition)" "I found a boyfriend in rehab" "I thought i didn't need the steps/God" "I looked down at other people from the gutter" "i thought i was God" "I don't have any resentments" Any more to add?

Steppies or Steppers

Treckies or Trekkers .... Steppies or Steppers A discussion of the different types of AA members...

Praying only for knowledge of his will for us....

Step 11: Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood him, praying only for knowledge of his will for us and the power to carry that out I think AA members completely miss the point of this step. It doesn't say "praying only for the best car parking spot, a new job, a sexy oldtimer to be my boyfriend, a chance to chair the meeting, someone to ask me to be thier sponsor, the last teaspoon of coffee, a plate of scones at the lunch-time meeting, a pirate-chest full of long-lost booty/pieces of eight" etc etc.

Codswallop

"The important thing is not how you define a Higher Power. The important thing is that you don't consider yourself to be your own Higher Power, because your own best thinking found your bottom for you." I have three things to say about this oft-spouted AA mantra.

It isn't religious, it's ridiculous!

I found this funny post on Stinkin' Thinkin': “In the 12 steps that I have read, it talks about giving things out of our control over to God as we understand him. That could be God, Bhudda, Vishnu, Mohammed, Mother Nature or your favourite rock star!” — Lily, AA zealot Came to believe that Mick Jagger ourselves could restore us to sanity. Admitted to Iggy Pop, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. Were entirely ready to have Meat Loaf remove all these defects of character. Humbly asked Billy Idol to remove our shortcomings.

Back-peddling

Have you ever noticed how AA members sometimes say 'You can find Sobriety without God, but not Recovery'? For example, someone on e-AA posted this: "If all you want to do is not drink, it can be done without the steps." Isn't this contrary to the oft-stated position that 'the alcoholic is powerless over alcohol and cannot stop drinking without God'?

If you want what we have...

I recall AA fellows saying 'If you want what we have, do what we do'. I got to the point in AA when i found myself looking around and not wanting much of what they had at all. I knew that if i went after what they had, i would become a mindless zombie, someone i couldn't respect.

God Job

On many occasions i heard members say "It's a God job". It heard it said in situations as varied as: * Getting a car park when running late to a meeting * Running into a member on the street when having a bad day *Getting the last teaspoon of instant coffee at a meeting and my favourite... *meeting a newcomer in AA with the same name as a cousin with a drinking problem. Do AA members really think that these things are an intervention of a God, who cares about the minutia of their lives?

When God is a Group of Drunks

A Group Of Drunks, the Fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous, or a ‘Home Group’ Meeting are commonly used by members of Alcoholics Anonymous as representations of a Higher Power. But, for the purposes of the 12 Step Program, this conception of God is insufficient. Step 4: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Step 5: Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

AA and the Non-Believer

Whilst 12 Step Programs require a belief in God, Alcoholics Anonymous claims to be non-discriminatory on matters of belief for the purposes of membership. Third Tradition: The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. However, whilst Atheist and Agnostic members are tolerated, the sobriety of the non-believer challenges the very assumptions that underpin the Program of Alcoholics Anonymous: ‘(a) That we were alcoholic and could not manage our own lives. (b) That probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism.

AA missionaries?

I found this inetresting, on the Australian AA website: Notice to AA Australian Women members: Visit to India 2013: December 2011 AA Australia is aiming for 100 Women from AA Australia to visit cities in India in January 2013 to carry the message to women in India. Details are listed in the attached flyer ! http://www.aa.org.au/members/documents/INDIAFLYER-BACKPAGE.pdf What will they do when they get there???

Too full-on?

I spoke with someone i knew from AA last week. He still goes to an atheist meeting but not much else, and we have spoken extensively about out time in AA, and the perils we and others encountered. He said something strange last week though. He thought that Orange, BlameDenial and myself were perhaps being a little too full-on with regards our opinions of AA, and that maybe it is more benign than that.

New Serenity Prayer

Serenity tortures my mind And courage i'm too scared to find This damn stupid prayer Has me pulling my hair 12 Step "wisdom" is so pre-defined

Ode to Resentment

By resenting the cliquey step-squad I'm keeping my distance from God That stupid old guru Is making me want brew Another Big-Book-thumping clod

Ode to Alcoholism

Oh Lord! Seems i have this disease That only a prayer can appease One day at a time And all will be fine Relieve me Oh God, Pretty Please?

Ode to Helen Wynn

Bill was in search of some fun And Helen was the chosen one But after he died And whilst ol' Lois cried She took all his cash on the run

Ode to Jim Burwell

Jim Burwell talked with Dr Bob The idea of no God mad him sob Find a HP he must Or he'll surely bust Glory be to the doorknob!

Ode to Bill

There was an ex-boozer named Bill Whose wife had become quite a pill She hastened to nag Oh, what a hag Could all go away with a swill

New AA Pamphlets and Movies

Includes such classics as Big Bill Wilson and the Church Basement of Doom, Raiders of the 7th Tradition and Honey, I've hit the skids!

Bomb a Meeting

When i left AA i sometimes fantasised about bombing an AA meeting - a manure bomb.

Lies Lies Lies

Once i left AA, i felt ripped off, lied to. If only they had been honest when i first joined, i could have made an infomed choice (as long as they laid off the fear tactics). I wish they had outright said: This is a program based on faith-healing You need to come to meetings for the rest of your life Now that you have stepped through the door, you have no choice but to be an "alcoholic" You can never consider yourself "recovered" We say you are not a bad person, but you must confess your sins, defects We say alcoholism is a physical disease, but you must seek moral redemption

My name is BB Kate and I'm an "Alcoholic"

On e-AA, i once questioned other members' attitudes regarding the statement "My name's BB Kate and I'm an alcoholic". How would people feel if i just said "My name is BB Kate"?

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